The Learning Journey of Baby in and from the womb.
The Learning Journey
I had just completed a research study on the learning of baby within the womb, when I had dinner with my three sisters whom combined had seven children. I asked the question! At what age do Babies learn? My sisters would have had more experience with babies and children than I would have had. However, I was overwhelmed at their answers. The learning journey.
They suggested that babies learn from three months to twelve months. I could not fathom how three woman who had seven pregnancies could even imagine that babies began to learn after they were born and not inside the womb. How they never considered that what they were experiencing, baby may also be considering. But they did not.
The Baby Learning Journey
My studies had revealed that babies began to learn at around three months after conception, not at three months old. My continuing research supports my findings, and is a great window of learning when dealing with clients with depression. Along with trauma, anxiety, stress, abandonment issues, approval and self-esteem issues, to name but a few. Some people outgrow the experience whilst in the womb, and indeed, on the way out of the womb. But some people simply do not. The imprinted memory and programs embed, not only in our minds, but in every cell of our body. Cellular memory encodes within our DNA and stays with us, according to Dr Bruce Lipton.
So what does it mean if baby learns in the womb or not, and what are the consequences? Everything Mother is sensing, feeling, thinking, seeing, hearing, saying, doing when she is carrying a baby, the baby is also experiencing all those sensations and emotions. Albeit in a slightly different way. However its the start of the learning journey.
Learning From Our Senses
It may seem impossible, that a baby may be able to hear and listen to others talking around Mother, while they are still within the womb. However the sound-processing parts of their brain become active around six months, and as sound carries through the Mother’s tummy, Eg., “If you put your hand over your mouth and speak, that’s very similar to the situation the fetus is in,” says cognitive neuroscientist Eino Partanen of the University of Helsinki. “You can hear the rhythm of speech, rhythm of music, and so on.” a positive learning journey.
If Mother and Father don’t get along, and Father shouts at Mother or is aggressive or abusive towards her or beats Her, baby knows and grows in traumatic fear of Father and indeed, of all men. Baby recognises Fathers voice and knows it’s not safe to be with him. By the same token, if Father is caring, loving and emphatic towards Mother during her pregnancy, then baby knows and feels that too. Baby knows his or her Fathers voice and his empathic and loving nature and knows he is safe to be with.
Trauma Passed To The Womb
If Mother has a traumatic experience whilst pregnant, such as a fall, or car accident, or an attack, baby experiences that trauma as well and with no way to release that trauma, baby carries that with them through birth and sometimes life. (I will discuss the release of trauma in another article). Sometimes Mother has become pregnant by mistake, she does not want a baby. Maybe she’s very young or maybe she got drunk and had sex with a stranger. Or maybe she just made a mistake and became pregnant. But unwanted. This happens, that is life.
She may then broods and worries how she will cope, she becomes stressed and sometimes depressed with the burden of what to do, she may decide to abort, she may decide to keep the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption or she may be forced to keep the baby and raise him or her as a single parent. Baby at three months inside the womb is now aware of Mothers feeling, her anxiety, her guilt, her shame of being pregnant under the circumstances, whatever they might be. Baby now knows he or she is unwanted. Babies journey for the remainder of the pregnancy is an awareness that Mother does not want me.
The Support Network
Depending on the support around Mother at this time, if that support is negative, in other words, if all around Mother wants baby eliminated from their lives. This will exasperate babies feelings as now not only does Mother not want baby, nobody else wants baby either. If baby is conceived through an act of violence or rape. Baby by three months in the womb will already feel this as well.
Babies feelings “I am unwanted in here and nobody wants me out there”
Usually, Mother becomes pregnant by plan or life just happens, either way, she wants a baby, and is delighted and joyous with her new condition. She may have morning sickness, but she still is happy no matter the physical changes within her body, a love and bond grows like no other.
The Second Trimester The Baby Feels
Baby in the second trimester inside the womb is now aware of Mothers feeling, her love, her excitement, her Maternal instinct and her joy. Baby now knows he or she is wanted, loved, cared for and minded. Babies journey for the remainder of the pregnancy is an awareness that Mother loves me. If Father is loving and caring and those around Mother are supportive in a positive way, then baby feels loved and safe.
Babies feelings “I am wanted in here and everybody wants me out there”
If baby is conceived from a loving energy, in other words, baby is created through the loving union of a man and a woman. The baby by three months in the womb will already feel this. Every interaction Mother has during her pregnancy, baby is part of and knows. Baby recognises the energy and tonality of Father, if he’s around, also those special people in Mothers life, such as parents and siblings and friends who would be close to Mother during her pregnancy.
The Partners Love For A Baby
Some Fathers are so loving and empathic, during pregnancy, they talk to baby inside the womb. They hold and rub Mothers tummy and kiss the tummy as if to kiss the unborn child. Imagine how that makes baby feel! Of course you also have Fathers who ignore the fact that there is a baby in there at all. Imagine how baby might feel now! Irrespective of positive or negative conception and environment. Sometimes baby leaves the planet before being born, perhaps baby finds this part of the learning journey way too traumatic. Or perhaps that was the agreement made before they arrived. We will never know for sure.
Babies Birth A Personal View
As an aside, my own personal belief is, we have an entry point and an exit point that do not change and everything in between is a fluid sea of possibilities and potential and ultimately our choice. When it gets to birthing time, some babies arrive early, premature, while others are late, overdue. Why might that be? For some, there are medical reasons and for others, no reason at all.
My own thought on this are, if I was unwanted, would I want to come out, or if Father was a bully or Grand Father was abusive. Would I not want to stay in the safety of Mothers tummy. I think I would want to stay as long as possible. On the other side of course is, if Father was loving and caring and courageous and Grand Parents were loving and supportive, I would want to get out as fast as possible to meet them.
The journey out of the womb is no joke or easy task, I have discussed this with many women. Mother is pushing and in labour, a nice way of saying, she is in agony and on the other side baby is being pushed out of his or her comfort zone. Regardless whether they want to come out or not. The bones of a newborn baby’s skull are soft and flexible. The soft bones of the skull collapse and baby is pushed out from the cocoon of safety. Up to this point, connected to Mother in every way, to now being isolated and alone to breathe on his or her own. Even birthing is a learning journey.
Suffocating trauma until outside the womb and then the unbiblical cord is cut. Which had served as a life line since the early weeks of pregnancy. Therefore baby is now, for the first time, totally and completely an individual. Alone. There are other births to consider at this point, a birth using forceps, or a vacuum extraction or indeed a caesarian section. What impact might they have on the already learned and evolving baby.
One can only imagine the trauma of being caught by forceps and pulled kicking and screaming from the safe cocoon of Mothers womb, or worst, a plunge like implement is stuck to the baby’s head and again pulled out of his or her comfort. Traumatic? I would think so, for both Mother and baby.
The Complicated Birth
Caesarian section presents a different hypophysis, there is no trauma on the exit of the womb, no struggle, no effort and no forced evacuation. What impact might this have on the child or adult in later life? Or indeed Mother at the time of birth.
The Negative Learning Journey
So if we consider babies journey so far, and us use the negative hypophysis. In other words, Father is a bully or not on the scene, Grand Father is abusive and everybody was in support of getting rid of the baby. How might baby feel when he or she arrives out of the womb? Terrified, scared, untrusting, anxious, the list goes on.
The Postive Learning Journey
Let’s now consider babies journey so far, using a positive hypophysis. In other words, Father is a loving, caring , emphatic and a courageous man, Grandfather and Grandmother are adoring and supportive and all want the best for baby. How might baby feel? Loved, treasured, cared for, supported, safe, trusting and that list goes on.
As baby grows outside the womb, disconnected from Mother, alone, and vulnerable, how might baby react or connect with those, now outside and around them, given the experiences baby encountered whilst in the womb. We never give it a second thought, we never consider the impact of that initial phase of baby learning and how that phase has the potential to mould and shape his or her character and personality for the future.
I’ll come back to the affects in babyhood, childhood and adulthood in a different article.
Our words and actions are like a pebble in a pond and you get to choose if those effects are positive. Make the learning journey a postive one
– David Ellis